Yesterday I had a great phone call with one of my friends Rebecca, who is a fellow gym owner. It’s been months since we last talked and it was so great to catch up and share what has been going on with our lives. During our conversations about helping people, she said something really profound:
“As humans, we are driven to succeed, and when we do fail, it’s often times when we believe we can’t”
The fear of failing is in essence the reason why we don’t reach our goals. One reason why someone may fail in their health and fitness journey is that they have to be ‘right’ all the time: attend the gym 6 days a week, eating zero carbs, the list goes on.
But what if we said to ourselves, “it’s ok to fail”. This can break the chain that can set us free. We are all walking our own path. Often times it can be perceived that these paths are a straightforward route without issues, but the reality is that it is truly anything but easy. So why give up now? Why let a little failure, or what I like to call a ‘speed bump’ stop you from achieving what you want?
Experiencing failures provides us an opportunity to grow and learn from our mistakes and it also allows us to identify strategies of where we are able to succeed in the future. This also lays down the groundwork for your kids, family, friends, coworkers and everyone around you. Here are some ways on how to fail:
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Take a deep breath. When you hold your breath, you are depriving your brain of oxygen and it elicits the stress response. When you are stressed, or stressed out, your decision making skills are negatively affected. So take a deep breath, or 5, and give your brain an opportunity to decompress and make sense of the situation.
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Identify what can be learned or taken away from the failure. If you missed out on the gym, what was the reason? Schedule? Motivation? Or did you need the day to rest and recover? If you messed up on your diet, was it because your were way too strict on your parameters, stressed out, or just wanted to ‘eat that cake’?.
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Once you identified the trigger, come up with an action plan so that you can move forward towards your specific goal.
One factor that people can often overlook is to ask themselves is if the goal is important enough to them to even pursue it. Does it make sense now, to spend time and energy on that specific goal? That is something no one can answer for you but yourself.
If you do decide that the goal is worth pursuing but you are having trouble trying to attain it, then absolutely ask for help. You aren’t in this alone. Ask a friend, colleague, or even hire a coach.
The team here at Hudson River Fitness is here for you every single step of the way. We will even identify the action steps needed to help you achieve your fitness goals. So if you are ready to ask for help, book your free no sweat intro here.
Continue your journey today,
Ashley
***We are running two nutrition challenges this coming 11/1. Our “all in” challenge will focus on principles that will help you lose fat, improve your energy, reduce your stress and make you feel better. We will be providing daily accountability over a span of 28 days and you will for sure feel the difference and be well prepared for the upcoming holiday season. It is $149 to enroll with the possibility to win a $25 credit towards other coaching services. Clickhereto sign up now We are also providing a free Sober November challenge that will begin on the same day. Interested in either program? Emailamber@hudsonriverfitness.netto enroll! Kick off meeting for the challenge is on 10/26 at 2pm.
